Nugget and I had a great Halloween despite Hurricane Sandy and her cold rain! Nugget was dressed as a monkey and had fun going door to door. Truth be told she had more fun seeing all the other costumes than she did getting the candy.
Halloween is also what I think of as the beginning of the holiday season. For the next 3 months there will be at least 1 major holiday to get ready for and enjoy. It is a given that even while surrounded by happy families a person may have a moment of two where they wish for "the perfect family", the mom, dad and child/children that we see in books, on TV or in real life at the local park. As happy as I am I still have times like this. IT IS OK!
As single parents it is possible to want a significant other and feel that longing a little more intensely around the holidays. Let yourself have a moment, acknowledge your feelings, and then let them go and embrace the wonderful things that are real in your life right now. It is not “wanting” that can be damaging to a soul it is “dwelling”. Do not dwell on what you do not have. Do not say "Things would be better if...." Focus on the magic in your life.
When Nugget was getting ready for Halloween she had her mom, aunt, two uncles and her grandparents by her side. She had a dedicated mother holding her hand when she was scared to go up to the porches by herself. Her Mimi sewed up her costume when it needed a little alteration. Nugget had a blast and I know she felt special. That is what is important.
Not having a male in her life with the label of "Dad" did not affect her attitude on this holiday and I am sure it will not be a factor in the ones to come, so I will not let it affect my holiday season either.
Halloween is also what I think of as the beginning of the holiday season. For the next 3 months there will be at least 1 major holiday to get ready for and enjoy. It is a given that even while surrounded by happy families a person may have a moment of two where they wish for "the perfect family", the mom, dad and child/children that we see in books, on TV or in real life at the local park. As happy as I am I still have times like this. IT IS OK!
As single parents it is possible to want a significant other and feel that longing a little more intensely around the holidays. Let yourself have a moment, acknowledge your feelings, and then let them go and embrace the wonderful things that are real in your life right now. It is not “wanting” that can be damaging to a soul it is “dwelling”. Do not dwell on what you do not have. Do not say "Things would be better if...." Focus on the magic in your life.
When Nugget was getting ready for Halloween she had her mom, aunt, two uncles and her grandparents by her side. She had a dedicated mother holding her hand when she was scared to go up to the porches by herself. Her Mimi sewed up her costume when it needed a little alteration. Nugget had a blast and I know she felt special. That is what is important.
Not having a male in her life with the label of "Dad" did not affect her attitude on this holiday and I am sure it will not be a factor in the ones to come, so I will not let it affect my holiday season either.
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