Thursday, August 30, 2012

Embrace the FREEDOM

I think it is time to highlight the perks of being Single and a Single/Only Parent. I have done similar post, but it is always good to reiterate the positive!

You see this bed? That is my bed (or at least my sheet set!). There are many like it, but this is mine! All mine… I can sleep in the middle, diagonally, curled up in the middle, flailed out or any which way I please. I am ALWAYS on my side and do not have to worry about waking anyone up when I roll over. I am no longer in danger of being accidentally kicked of hit in the middle of the night by a renegade appendage. No snoring will keep me awake and nobody else will be setting alarm clocks on my night stand. Damn it feels good to be gansta! Am I right? I own that little peaceful rectangle of comfort and I make the rules! Another great thing is that I no longer have to worry about stinky man sheets. I still wash my sheets on the regular of course, but they never actually STINK. The last and final benefit of having my very own bed is not having to worry about being awaken late at night or in the very, very early hours to the advances of some dude who wants to get frisky. Don’t get me wrong once upon a time this might have been fun from time to time, but as a mother and someone who gets up at 5:30am every morning… well let’s just say I am not interested, like ever.

In a nutshell, I love my bed. I put girlie sheet sets on it and sleep in whatever position pleases me. It is a beautiful thing.

My schedule:
I no longer have to worry about keeping another adult’s schedule (as a minor I do not count Nugget cause I can technically make choices for her.) I do not have to align my free time to match another’s or schedule what time we eat based on when we are all home from work. Only one family (mostly) so there is never the “Who’s house for Christmas/Thanksgiving/Easter?” debacle. No shuffling around! Face it Holidays can be stressful enough, I am happy to go to one place and then head home.

I shave my legs when I want.
I wear make-up when I want.
I dress up when I want and I chill in my jammies when I want.
What’s for dinner? Whatever the HELL I want bitch! BAM!!

Embrace your freedom. Enjoy it and cherish it. Once a week serve yourself a fancy dinner on your nice china or get expensive take out and eat it out of a plastic container. It’s your world baby!

Wednesday, August 29, 2012

Why is a raven like a writing desk?

Why is a raven like a writing desk?

I don’t have the slightest idea! Like Alice wondering through wonderland I tend to have times where I feel like I have no grasp on reality or what I am doing. It is still strange to me that I am a mother sometimes. I crave alone time, yet miss the Nugget when she is gone. This tiny person who is now walking, talking and asking questions is relying on me to make the beginning of her life as happy and fruitful as possible.

Nugget is happy. That is what is important. The fact that I almost never even attempt to put on make-up or wear clothing beyond the same 3 pairs of shorts and 5 shirts has yet to be noticed be my daughter. I will worry about embarrassing her when she is older. I PROMISE to try harder before she is in middle school! Until then 10 mins of sleep is more valuable to both of us than my mascara. At that point I won’t be paying for daycare (not that I won’t have other expenses like sports/activities…) and maybe I will be able to afford some nicer clothing. One thing I know for sure is I will at least be able to use the restroom alone!

I have all of these grand ideas of how I will do the laundry when I get home and workout during the 23 minutes the clothes will be running through the cycle. HAHA! Silly Becca! I get home, make or serve dinner, get Nugget in bed only to realize I have no energy left. I mean NONE! I fall asleep after forcing myself to clear the dishes from dinner and showering. It is beyond me how some of these women do it. ::slow clap for the super moms who clean and workout every single day:: The weekend is the time I use to deep clean, organize and other misc. errands. I am lucky to get this done too, because as we all know there is always something that can come up, and of course we HAVE to make time for our children  Poor Nugget deserves some time with me where I am not scrubbing, folding or cooking.
Anyway! I know this post may be somewhat deja vu and disjointed… but as I said in the beginning there are days where I do not know what I am doing and I am just lucky to make it through without forget anything major!!

Friday, August 17, 2012

Keeping up

Keeping up with life can sometimes be taxing. Married, single, mother or not, most people have a full schedule. Trying to make things work can be a struggle.

My week has been a whirlwind. I am working on a new research study that has some crazy hours from time to time. This week was one of those times. Fifteen hours straight, 3 hour break, 1 more hour at work, 5 hours of sleep then back to the office....

I thank God for my awesome support system. My parents who kept Nugget overnight when I was running around the hospital, my sister who picked her up from daycare and my brother for moving in and being at home while Nugget slept and I came back into work to do a 6 hour check on my patient.

It takes a village, right? Maybe not, it just takes a family. A family of blood or of friends, big or small. The only thing that matters is willingness to help. I just wanted to give a big "Thank you!" to MY village.

Sunday, August 5, 2012

Some Changes

This week has brought about some changes in our household. My older brother has moved in to the In-Law Suite I have in the basement of my condo. I was original going to sell the place, but the market is so bad here I would lose too much money. My needed a place to move and I needed financial help. It turns out he is helping in ways I never really thought about.

He has given me more independence by watching Nugget or even just being in the house while she sleeps so I can go running or run a quick errand. I am no longer a complete slave to Nugget's schedule. He also loves to cook so I have the relief of two dinners a week being taken off my shoulders. He is a rare male that is organized and pretty cleanly! BEST OF ALL? My brother is an amazing role model for my daughter. She gets to see how respectful, caring and supportive a man should be. His even temper is a calming presence in our home.

We all have our own space when we need alone time and our work schedules are very compatible. In short, so far, so good!