Tuesday, February 7, 2012

Random thoughts

Some people are just dumb. I mean that. Today's society has far too many individuals who do not take the proper time to think BEFORE they speak. I would like to share some comments and questions that have come my way far too many times over the past roughly 2 years.

1) "So, did you know that your (ex)husband was involved in any of this?" Umm NO! Who in their right mind would have been living with a known pedophile? Who would just ignore those kind of red flags like that? While I am more than sure it has happened, I highly doubt those people would willing just say "Yeah I knew. Just waiting for the police to catch up!"

I knew nothing. I was one of his victims, though I was a victim in a very different sense. IF I had known I would also be in jail/prison as an accessory and PS.... would you really be talking to me if you TRULY thought I had known about any of this and remained with the man?

2) "Wow, you are lucky she looks just like you!" While in a way I am glad for my daughter that she looks like me, which may make things slightly easier for her, maybe... I would not love her any less if she looked like my X. I would never take any negative feelings I have towards him and place them on her, even if she was his twin. She is Nugget. She is beautiful. Having a mini-me is fun to joke about, but I want her to be herself always.

3) This is a comment I get more than I would have ever thought as a single mom, and it usually comes from people who are pretty much strangers! "So... Where is her father?" or "Is the father involved?" or "So why are you divorced?" People, these questions are just not appropriate. You are not my close friend, a family member or my lawyer... so you have no good reason to ask this question. I would never walk up to a mom in the park and ask her at what age she lost her virginity? It is a very personal question! The fact that you bring up those questions while in the presence of Nugget makes me want to throat pinch you!

4) "Do you want more kids someday? Get married again?" Yes, actually I would love nothing more than to find a wonderful partner and have another child. It hurts to think that Nugget may be an only child. I would love to hold my own newborn baby in my arms again. To have a wonderful and deserving man by my side this time. The truth is that it may not be in the cards and I am not going to snap my fingers and make Mr. Right appear. I refuse to settle, because Nugget and I deserve the best and I know there are amazing men out there. If I am lucky I will be destined to fall in love with one. Until that happens I am focused on my family. You bet your sweet ass that Nugget and I are a family. Just the two of us and we are doing quite well.


Anonymous said...

AMEN Sister!! Oh how I feel you on number 1!!! That by far is the MOST annoying question. It's like a personal jab to me. I seriously want to punch people who ask me that.


Anonymous said...

Good for you girl! Stand up for yourself! People can be A-holes!