Tuesday, December 20, 2011

Reclaiming my name

Yesterday I took my name back. Since our split a year and a half ago I have been using my maiden name whenever possible, but on legal documents, paychecks, work IDs and other documents I was still dragging his last name around. I hated seeing it and saying it. When people would ask me "The name on the account is Rebecca C@#% correct?" I HATED saying... "yes". I literally only had gone by that name for ONE month. Though we were married for 7 months I had just changed my name the month before is arrest. I remember being so excited to have his name, now it made me sick.

My daughter was given my maiden name at birth. She was given my middle name too. I wanted her to know she was mine. Not in a possessive way, but to let her know she comes from a pure heart. That her name was one to be proud of. I work hard everyday to make sure the name is worthy of my amazing child. I know I am proud to once again have my original label. The feeling I get when I look at my ID is now one of happiness. I love being me, I love my name.

A rose may smell as sweet with another name, but I promise it FEELS better being called a rose.


Anonymous said...

Yay! I totally understand your excitement. I seriously can't wait! I get to change girlie's name and her middle name soon though. Her middle name is after the Monster's mother and him. I am contemplating giving her my middle name too. It is such a pain to start calling and changing it with everything. That will probably be my spring break activity.

CJ said...

I struggle with my last name. While I would love to completely drop it and take my wife's name, my ex husband's last name is also the last name of our daughter. My son has my maiden name, my daughter and I have my married name and my youngest daughter has my wife's last name. Maybe we can just combined all three?!?

Tina said...

Congrats to you-- it's a good feeling.

Thank you from the bottom of my heart for sharing my blog on the Bump forum-- I have had SO many views today and emails from women all over.

You are an amazing woman and I look forward to reading your entire blog :)